How do you deal with the shame

How do you deal with the shame What mainly fuks up my social life is thinking people expect me to not be stuttering by now. There are relatives and old friends i last saw when i was like 9 and i miss them so bad but i dont want them to know i still stutter. If its someone i knew rescently its not shameful at all but if its someone i have known for a long time like relatives and old friends i got disconnected from its really shameful. I feel like a failure for not having gotten rid of the stutter by now. This has nothing much to do with acceptance. It would be an acceptance issue if i was ashamed of it right now which am not so dont go too deep into the acceptance topic How do you deal with that?