commentr/StutterDecember 24, 2019

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Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. I've been trying so hard to reinvent myself and get out of my shell because my future relies on me being outgoing and charismatic, I can't be that if I harbor behaviors of my old self. It is extremely hard and I still absolutely hate speaking, that's something I'll never not dislike, but I have come to realize that there are moments in life where you cannot control the situation to be in your favor, there's trigger words that can't be avoided, there's blocks that make the entire room frozen, there's assumptions made about your next word or phrase, and there's the confused or pitiful looks you get, but you just have to remember those are all temporary events. Yes, they happen often and throughout my entire life, but the moment happens then fades then comes back. It may be a regular occurrence but I don't need to dwell on it. Because I'm not dwelling on it, it is a fleeting thing and I don't need to let it consume me. Personally, I believe that is the most important thing: the more you let your stutter consume your thoughts, the less you get the chance to experience life at its fullest. I've never been happier than I am this year and it is all because I am not letting my stutter take over every aspect of my being. I really hope any of that helped you and I wish you good luck with all your future endeavors. As long as you stay focus and have your goals in check, you can do anything in spite of your stutter.

Themes

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Mindset shiftAcceptance & PrideAvoidance & SubstitutionAuthenticity vs. MaskingQuality of Life

Codes (3)

emotional_stateperceived_judgmentpropositionality