Ask yourself if you would hate or judge other people for what you hate or judge yourself for. If not, then don’t allow yourself to operate from a double standard anymore. Tell your brain as a mantra, “I will not operate from a double standard anymore!” The “Golden rule” is to treat others as we would want to be treated. But sometimes if we think lowly of ourselves and higher of others, then we gotta work backwards and teach ourselves how to treat ourselves like we treat others. Does this make sense? Also, God can increase your self esteem: “And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus” (Ephesians 2:6). In other words, we can be on the level of God by allowing God to empower us and accept us into his Kingdom.