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hey there -- so you just started school? i remember feeling super awkward and weird for awhile, it was really only at the end of my first semester that i felt i had a few good friends that i regularly got lunch, hung out, or went to parties with. looking back, i don't think i necessarily took the best approach, but i can just give some suggestions of what i would do now. this might sound kind of obvious, but you live in a dorm probably? keep your door open unless you are sleeping or need some privacy. it's a way for people to pop their heads in and meet you. your first compulsion may be to just have your privacy but it's a really subtle way of putting yourself out there. i don't know what kind of interests you have or what your majors are, but you can look for clubs or extracurricular activities at the school. it's a little nerve-wracking going to that stuff as a stutterer, but honestly, worst case, you stutter badly and you either like the experience or feel like it's not your cup of tea and don't decide to go again. one thing you could do is look and see if they have a national stuttering association (NSA) chapter at the college or the town you are living in. there you would meet other people that stutter and could really find people to empathize with regarding some of your concerns. also, you may find some cool people to hang out with at the school from there. personally, i didn't really hit it off very well with my dorm floor and i remember thinking "what did i get myself into!?". there was one guy there who was a chemical engineering major (i was chemistry), and we shared some classes and had some similar interests, he seemed like a cool dude. i remember stopping by his room or he did similarly to talk about the school work, and we kind of took it from there, we are still pretty good friends to this day. he had some other friends he met who were also engineers and scientists, guys that were pretty cool and had interesting hobbies and were fun to party with. i started hanging out with them, and started meeting people through friends of friends or at parties or classes. hang in there! honestly, this is probably the worst point, you may feel like you made a terrible decision! once classes start or start ramping up, you'll meet people in a casual way through that. as my dad used to say, you only need a few good friends to make it through. and i remember the phrase someone i heard once say about stuttering -- it's like tempering a sword by putting it into the flame. you become much stronger and courageous going through some of these torments.