commentr/StutterOctober 23, 2025

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I personally haven't done this. I have a blocking stutter and I have always thought that it might be better to have a repetition stutter. I thought that being able to make a sound and repeating is a step forward from silent blocking. I might be wrong on this. >I really admire people who are outgoing despite how they stutter, and feel ashamed that I don’t let myself be like that. I just want to touch on this. Everyone is different and I think we should try to avoid comparing ourselves to each other because we don't know each others stories or struggles. For me personally, I went from 16-19 talking to literally one person. I didn't answer the phone, I stopped talking to all friends. I let the fear of stuttering consume me and I was miserable. One day I just snapped and said I needed to sort my life out. I went on an intensive speech therapy course and they spoke about the dangers of avoidance. I realised that avoidance was controlling my life. I would be anxious about the phone so I would avoid it. My anxiety increased each time I avoided something so I would withdraw further. For the past 15 years I have pushed myself to speak more, to meet new people, to go out of my comfort zone. I do that because I am terrified that if I don't do something, I will be afraid of it and spiral back down. If you saw me, you might see me as a fairly outgoing stutterer but I am just running from a past self. I am not sure if this something to aspire to or not. Don't know if this helps but yeah :)

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringHelplessness & AgencyAcceptance & PrideQuality of Life