commentr/StutterApril 21, 2023

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This is very cool! I've noticed the approachability resulting from increased vulnerability as well. A few years ago, I managed to build up the courage to actually mention my stutter in introductions, and I've been absolutely blown away by the reactions overall - none negative at all and some \_extremely\_ positive. I think it's the vulnerability coming into play - it comes off as though I'm trusting the speaker with a weakness, while at the same time presenting it on my own terms makes me look more confident and in control. Another hidden benefit is memorability. When I was younger I spent a year mostly fluent (intensive speech therapy which was traumatic and invasive enough I didn't decide to stick with it but took a bit of time to wear off) and found myself feeling disturbed and unmoored by the fact that I didn't know whether I was memorable and what the first impression was that people had of me. I realised that some part of me had taken it for granted that I made a big impression and that, for instance, at school I'd be the first student whose name the teacher remembered.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride