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Hi preredditor, I posted a little bit ago about being a speech language pathologist (SLP) who stutters. So my answer is going to come from someone who has seen all 3 sides of this. The stuttering experience, being a speech client, and the therapist. \-Honestly a lot of SLP's don't feel very comfortable treating stuttering. It would be in your best interest to find someone that specializes in it. All SLPs are different. You may have to shop around before you meet someone that can help you. I have met SLPs that do traditional stuttering therapy techniques (i.e. light contact, easy onset) but I also know an SLP that stutters that doesn't do techniques at all. He only uses exposure therapy and acceptance (i.e. working on fears/avoidance etc) and has found success with that, not only for his clients but for himself. You mentioned that your stuttering is mild but that you are affected socially by it, this type of therapy might really benefit you. \-You mentioned a few times that speech therapy "failed" you. Remember that YOU create the criteria for success or failure regarding your speaking experience. Unfortunately, eliminating stuttering is not a realistic goal. A better mindset and goal may be to gain some control over your speech, but more importantly that stuttering no longer controls your life or brings you grief. \-For example, the only way I got through college was to change my criteria for success or failure. I would lose sleep or be sick leading up to presentations or speeches. I would power through them and then beat myself up if my fluency wasn't perfect. I would try to avoid them or negotiate with the professor. That was no way to live. Avoidance is the worst option. It only strengthens the fear associated with such situations and makes stuttering worse. I had to redefine what a "success" was. Once I told myself that "doing" the presentation was the success (without regard for fluency) then everything changed. I started to rack up victories and eventually got to a place where I actually had fun speaking to an audience. My fluency improved too, almost as a side effect. \-Stuttering affects us all differently, but you are largely in control of that. I am a mild/moderate stutterer but have been very affected by it. However, I've met some SEVERE people that are hardly affected. They don't hide it, switch words, or anything. They keep eye contact and stutter right in your face and there is strength and beauty in that. It truly doesn't bother them. Their stuttering doesn't stop them from doing/saying what they want. You can meet some of these people at your local National Stuttering Association (NSA) chapter. Its a great support group for people who stutter. \-Sorry this is so long. Final words of advice: find a good SLP that can help you achieve some realistic goals, be careful on YouTube especially regarding stuttering. There is a whirlwind of bad information/advice on there. I'm hoping to make a YouTube video soon to try and remedy that. Keep your head up friend!