I think you may be misunderstanding what we mean when we say "accepting". You may be thinking it means "just live with your stutter and you can do anything an abled person could do!", but part of "accepting" it is accepting the bad parts and limitations it gives you. You can't do everything in life. Think of it like this: you can't go into the military (in most positions), yes, because of your stutter. But, neither could someone with a medical condition that makes them obese. A 5'3" guy could probably never be a successful basketball player. A lactose intolerant person could never be a professional cheese taster. It's the same concept: people have physical characteristics that limit their options in life. Accepting your stutter may make some social situations easier, and may improve your mental health, but sadly, we will always have some, even a lot, of limitations other people don't have. That's just our lot in life. e: also, your motivation for accepting your stutter should not be to make your fluency better. I'm far more comfortable with my stutter now than I ever have been and I still am totally disfluent sometimes. if you go in thinking that it'll solve your stuttering, you will most likely be very disappointed. You should be accepting it for your own mental peace and to better understand yourself and how you fit in society