postr/StutterOctober 12, 2017

How do I deal with blocks?

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How do I deal with blocks? Hello Reddit! I am new to this community, and I wanted to get some insights on dealing with my stutter. I am 21 years old, and I recently became very open about my speech impediment. Prior to my recent days, I have been hiding my stutter throughout my years. I still had a lot of stutter blocks I would say, but I somehow hid it by replacing words or using filler words such as "like" and "so" to initiate my vocalization. I put myself in social situations that I would not have done so when I was younger. I have lived good amount of my life hiding my stutter this way, and I did see gradual improvements on my speech. I personally did not like to hide my stutter while I was making improvements upon my speech because it just felt like I was not directly facing my problem, which is stuttering itself. I also did not like the people around me to mistaken my speech dis-fluency as being attributed to lack of intelligence, inability to speak English (English is my second language), just being shy, under the influence of drugs/alcohol, and so on. I have transferred to a new school recently, and at the same time, I felt the need to be open about my speech impediment. During the club fair at my new school, I walked up to a club that I have been wanting to join to ask few questions. The club representative asked me my name, and I had a stutter block for quiet some time. At this moment, I just let the representative know that I have a speech impediment, which I have never been opened up about before, and I felt a big relief. Ever since, I have been letting people that I meet at my school know that I have a stutter. However, the problem is, recently, my stutter blocks became much more prevalent than before. I have discussed with my close ones about this, and they have told me that my stutter got worse because I am still not comfortable at my new school, which I indeed suspect is the leading cause of the rise of severity of my stutter. I also suspect the severity of my stutter being attributed to me opening up about my stutter as well. Since I am open about my stutter, I no longer slyly try to speak while hiding my stutter as before. Therefore, I feel at lost because I do not know how to directly deal with my stutter blocks whenever they appear by saying what I want to say unlike the times when I dealt with stutter blocks by avoidance. Stuttering is costing me many opportunities that I can get my hands on, and I really feel the need to manage my stutter to communicate effectively and network. My main concern right now is my inability to say what I want to say while I am having a block. My question to everyone is, how can I vocalize my words while having stutter blocks? I am talking about times when the stuttering block comes and we keep sinking deeper and deeper into the block while it feels like the word has no chance of coming out.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentQuality of Life