postr/StutterJune 17, 2023

How do you disclose your stutter to someone you’re dating?

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How do you disclose your stutter to someone you’re dating? I’m talking to this guy I’ve met online but we also met in person couple of times ( not intentionally). It’s a long distance and we communicate via text, phone. But I try keeping our conversations via text. We’ve talked on the phone multiple times but I don’t like it. Obviously if it wasn’t for my stutter I’d prefer phone calls more. I can’t fully express myself or say what’s in my mind. Because of my stutter I’ve developed a phone phobia. This has caused us problems. We broke things off couple months ago because he thinks that I don’t share enough with him and reserved. The thing is he doesn’t know I have a stammering problem and I don’t know why but I’m having a really hard time telling him. This conversation makes me very uncomfortable. I know if I keep hiding it it will only make it worse. I’ve never talked about my stutter to anyone and it’s such an awkward conversation but I know it has to be done. I just don’t want anyone to pity me. Part of me is telling me to just end it if I can’t fully be honest. I don’t know what to do. Has anyone been in this situation? If so, how did you overcome it or solved it? My stutter is mild, I block more. The more comfortable I get around someone the more I stutter.

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Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Disclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentFeared Words & Names

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