I hate how down I get about it and how I can get an off putting attitude because of it. Lately we haven't been going on dates (saving up since we are moving soon) but when the time comes I'd love to not be shitty and just talk. He doesn't think negatively of me and I should relax. Go on dates!! Maybe that would help? Get yourself snazzed up and a go, another commenter made an excellent point that only a shallow person would care and you don't want that anyway. You've obviously got something that is super attractive if you're being approached so give it a whirl :-)