> It's within me " I realized that normal speakers do not get caught up on every detail trying to get out words, how to set up the most fluent sentence" -> I agree, we focus on accepting stuttering (and sometimes fear if we add a person). Non-stutterers focus on context, while stutterers focus 10% on context and 90% on the sound of stuttering, how long they are stuttering, in what way they are stuttering (visualizing and conditions of stuttering). When you were a kid, in the first week you started stuttering, you didn't have fears like: "Oh no I will stutter on the letter ABCDEFG" (this is called stressor, it's fear that triggers expectation of a stutter). I'm trying to say, as a kid you didn't (yet) learn to fear situations, sounds, etc. I even go so far to say that as a kid you didn't have perceived stresses, you didn't feel any pressure regarding fluent speaking or stuttering. I'm talking about the first day or first week that you stuttered as a kid. You didn't have stresses then because you didn't build them. This is my opinion. Do you agree? Some stutterers stutter everywhere, they also stutter when they are alone. But they don't have stresses when they are alone so the question is Why do they stutter if not stresses? My answer, in my opinion is, very simple it's because as a kid we 'accept the believe' we accept the idea that stuttering is our way of speaking. So essentially, we accept stuttering from the first day we start speaking. Normally if a person accepts a false belief, then he slowly learns to fear the outcomes. But with stuttering is a bit different, because one accepts a false belief that he is a stutterer with no cure, but instead of 'seeing the outcome as negative' he learns to live with his stuttering as best as he can and sees the world positive. He turns every reason to stutter from negative to positive in order to avoid depression. So now we are back to 'happy stutterer' right? I think you are right, we are not happy stutterers but on the other hand we also don't aim for depression so we 'accept stuttering' in order to stay sane but ignorant of the fact that 'accepting stuttering' maintains stuttering, do you share the same opinion? You said: "I just realize all this stuttering bullshit just doesn't matter anymore. Like im done with it." -> I agree! But you can interpret 'it doesn't matter anymore' in 2 different ways: 1. First interpretation, you can say it doesn't matter that I stutter or speak fluently. If I occasionaly stutter then it's fine, but I don't think about it further. I don't care what other people think, if I stutter. *-> this is not my view. Disadvantage: not productive towards fluency 2. Second interpretation, you can say it doesn't matter what other people think about my fluency. I don't care about their opinion, I'm focusing on my opinion that I know I can speak fluently, and I want to feel fluent. *-> this is my view. Advantage: constructive towards fluency What is your interpretation of it? I assume by your opinion "It's within me" that you prefer the first interpretation. In my opinion if you say "It's within me" then it's a way of 'accepting stuttering' and by doing so you unconsciously create many fears, doubts, and other thoughts to maintain the problem. You accept stuttering with the goal of desentitizing fear but unknowingly you add fear as well. If I accept a certain (false/unfounded) belief like Friday the 13th causes misfortune, then it's not the cause of perceived stresses (feeling pressure), but the cause is that I 'accept this belief as truth', like I accept "stuttering is within me, stuttering is my way of speaking as truth'. What is your opinion? For example, if my relative is in the hospital. Then I can accept the believe that she will not heal. Result: I expect that she will not heal. This creates 'stress/pressure' thoughts. Do you agree? So if I accept the believe that "stuttering is within me, it's my way of speaking'. Result: then I unconsciously expect that I will stutter. This creates unconscious stress/pressure thoughts. Agreed?