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undiagnosed / unacknowledged stutter Hi, I’m in my 20s and I’ve had a stutter since I was in elementary school. My relationship with it now is okay and definitely manageable. I have moments but I think I overall don’t let it hold me back from social situations. And it feels good to have this relationship with it and myself, but thinking about how I got here feels so upsetting. I never got help for my stutter, and it was never even acknowledged by my parents or teachers. At first it was something I couldn’t even acknowledge myself, I just knew I couldn’t talk like everyone else and I was just scared all the time. Everything from going to school or family parties or being out in public or even hanging with friends, it just messed with me so much no matter what. And I can remember vividly the times my friends commented on it and all the times I heard teasing from classmates. My parents either never realized or just never said or did anything. Eventually I started to look things up - I remember googling on my phone at night in incognito mode trying to find out why I am blocked in my speech and why I have so much anxiety and how to stop all this. I don’t know why I didn’t just talk to my parents about it but I didn’t even know what was going on and I never talked to them about personal life. But also, how did they just not notice at all or be more engaging parents?? I just feel so shit because I went through all of that completely alone and that’s just not fair. The amount of trauma stuttering has caused and how it completely ruined any sense of self from developing, like that’s so intense for a kid to go through and not even have it be seen. I feel like I am still uncovering and working through so many issues that probably stem from it or relate to it. It’s just so weird, like I am glad to have worked through it as much as I have but I feel so beyond exhausted and alone. I’m hurt that no one helped me back then and no one now understands what I went through.