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Going on a Date I’ve been texting this guy for some time and turns out we hit it off pretty well. He’s one year older than me (I’m 23/f). I’m excited yet getting crazy anxiety for our date because of my stutter. This is my first date in a few months so my nerves are wracked! He does not stutter, is fluent. He’s picking me up so you know that first car ride to wherever you’re headed? The small conversations to to get a feel for each other and see if the energy & character you felt thru text/phone convo is the same? Yeah. That’s what I’m mulling over. I know it’ll turn out okay whether something comes from it or not. But I felt like writing something here. I’ve dated in the past and in HS and I would never come out right and say “I have a stutter” — I would just kinda let them hear it and keep the convo moving. (None of my exes cared/thought it was cute, etc. Although this one time a guy friend thought I was just cold bc I stuttered on the “g” sound and made a joke about turning the ac down. Insert me being mortified. And you’re damn right I said “yes, I’m just cold”. Omg. — I have long spells of complete fluency. But when my stutter comes back it’s here with a vengeance.) If I really focus myself, I can be fluent. BUT. Idk what it is but lately I’ve been stuttering like a mad woman. And I NEVER stutter like this unless I feel inferior bc of my impediment. So it’s like mental sabotage. Idk. I’m working through what spikes my stutter and what fuels my fluency. Thus, My plan is to really just be myself, stutter and all, because it’s apart of who I am. Literally just taking my time and enjoying the conversation and not rushing thru my turns to speak. If funny jokes pop into my head or quirky anecdotes come up I will try not to be afraid to say them. Lol. (Literally just pep talking myself! Hope it’s not annoying for this thread!) If you guys have dating tips, for stuttering while dating or regular dating, lmk! 🤔 Help a girl out & help me calm my nerves. 🤞🏼