All good advice, with only the exception of 'job with the right skill.' I was where he is but now work in sales with excellent performance. I wouldn't have thought it a few years ago. All in all, be a software engineer or work in IT, but ONLY IF you truly want to. You won't easily forgive yourself if you 'settle' for a profession you don't choose but is chosen by your limitations. That's festering ground for resentment and disappointment. The journey to what you aspire will always be riddled with pain and suffering but it's at least suffering you choose, and the rewards are all the more gratifying. I won't tell you what to do with your son, but if it was mine I'd seek to inspire this in him. He will suffer anyway, as we all do.