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Hey man, 30 year old stutterer here. Look, if you're part of this club, it is what it is. Sometimes you're going to stutter, sometimes you won't. Here's the thing - the insecurity and constant worrying about it is all in your head, as it is in mine. To this day, stuttering is the thing I am most insecure about. That said, I have a beautiful wife and daughter, a ton of friends and success at my job which if you can believe it is sales. I speak to highly-educated doctors and try to get them to use a couple drugs I sell. High-ish pressure situations all the time, public speaking - the whole shebang. I bring myself up to demonstrate that: 1) 99/100 strangers you meet will probably have zero idea that you stutter. If you stutter really bad in front of a stranger, simply do your best to salvage the situation but at the end of the day that person won't remember that interaction at all. No one cares. Want proof? You ever seen a really obese person somewhere when you're out and about? Even have a conversation with them? When you went home that day, did you think about the fact that you interacted with someone that some people may find unsavory? Probably not, you just kept on living your life. Do you think people care if they interacted with someone that stuttered? Or was fat? Or had a big mole? Or was stinky? Maybe for a second, but then life goes on. 2) You'll eventually have to get a serious job to support yourself and your family. Better not make excuses to yourself on why you can or can't do something. I am learning that even today. If you don't at least try to do things, you're doing yourself a disservice. There isn't a magic cure like vitamins, minerals, whatever. Not yet at least. I'd work on trying to be comfortable in your own skin, and have that translate going forward in other social situations. I bet you don't stutter when you sing or talk to yourself in the shower or think in your head. No pressure there, so the brain doesn't have a reason to stutter. 3) The world will keep spinning with or without you. Again, no one cares that you have a stutter. People are going to apply to jobs and ask girls on dates and give speeches whether you are part of it or not. So, my advice is to say "fuck it, this is me. If you don't like it, there are billions of other people in the world." I bet you're a good kid and have a lot to contribute to the world. It's not easy but try not to let having a stutter define you.