commentr/StutterOctober 13, 2024

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I totally understand, but at least you have something to look forward to when you go on campus. Make every attempt to meet people, even if it seems awkward. Everyone wants to be friends, but people are just generally nervous to put themselves out there stutter or not. So making the first step is a big plus! When talking to people in situations like this, ask open-ended questions and show genuine interest. It doesn’t have to be the most interesting conversation in the world. For example, if I saw someone wearing something in my style, I’d introduce myself and compliment them followed by a question in regard to what I complimented. A lot of people put too much pressure on “saying the right thing.” Just let the conversation flow—think of it like chatting with an old friend. If you can be funny, that helps ease the tension. As for getting contact info, I usually say something like, “I’m new in the area and trying to meet more friends; you seem cool.” Most people don’t mind and will give you their Instagram. Afterward, if you enjoyed talking to them, plan another event and go from there. If you want to start small just focus on introducing yourself to as many people as possible to get comfortable. If you have friends who are charismatic, observe how they approach social situations. Watch their body language and how they engage in conversations. Google helps too—when I was younger, I used to search “how to make friends.” It mostly comes down to experience, so don’t sweat it if it feels weird at first. I know a stutter def adds another layer of difficulty to social situations, but it’s still possible. Hope I helped and if you ever need to talk my dms are open brother.

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Social & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceCommunity & Support

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Friendships & BelongingHope & MotivationAdvice Offered