commentr/StutterApril 29, 2022

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“It makes me feel bad that I’m causing discomfort between whoever is watching me present.” There are so many things I want to say in regards to this sentence. I don’t think that they’re breaking eye contact because they feel discomfort. I think they’re doing it so you don’t feel discomfort which, of course, you say the action of them doing that does make you feel uncomfortable. There’s research showing that if you talk about your limitations in a positive light, people are more willing to see it in a positive light. If you were to present and then laugh or make a joke, even if you do stutter, people would know what the right reaction to have with you is. The next thing I want to say is, why is it your job to make other people feel comfortable? Your job is to be a student and present. Let other people feel uncomfortable! I’m sure they’re uncomfortable when they are presenting as well. They get the stress of being up in front of everyone. We’re all human and life just impacts people in different ways. Now for the people that laugh, it’s easy to say “fuck them,” but it’s not so easy to process it and actually not let it affect you. Every time you hear someone laugh, I challenge you to laugh as well. This may seem odd but I think if you take the power back of laughing “with” them, they realize that it’s not such a serious mishap and that life happens. Have you thought about talking to a therapist? Or even your professors about this so they are able to understand? I wish you the best of luck! I’m here if you ever want to DM me. Good luck with school!

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Overthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking