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Hey! Sorry for my late reply. Yes, everything you noted is exactly what I do and think, regarding helpful and uhelpful behaviours. It's interesting how most of us experience similar things like this. I always knew my stutter was fear-based, but I guess I simply just accepted that I have a stutter, and refused to look for other perspectives. Just recently, I feel the urge to research it, and to see if there are other things I never took into consideration. I'm currently watching this video by Mort Cooper. He poses that the reason we stutter, is because we don't want to stutter. It's exactly the same as how panic attacks work. They happen, because you don't want them to happen. Don't wanting them to happen equals fighting it. Full blown panic attacks feel like you're about to die + go crazy + never able to get out of it. The cure for this was to accept is with open arms and to surrender 100%. This cured it. So right now, I'm all about working on accepting my fear about stuttering, and to not hold myself back when I feel I might stutter. It's difficult for sure, but I feel like if I was able to do this with panic attacks, I can do this as well. Rght now I'm just struggling with 'where to start' exactly. I feel like I'm quite new to the facing-my-stutter-fears game, and not exactly sure what game plan I should use. All I know is that I shouldn't use avoidance behaviours when I feel I want to use avoidance behaviours. To talk, when I feel I'm scared to talk. TO stutter, when I feel I don't want to stutter. What specific 'game plan' would you advise? Let's say I would you if you could break it down into a few steps, what would it look like? Another thing I've been working on the last few days, is to not use substitute words when I can't say certain words. I've used this trick forever. Always using substitute words for words I cannot say. Using substitute words basically means I'm still trying to hide from my stutter, or hide from what I actually want to say. This is fear. I feel the fear needs to be overcome in order to progress. Thanks so much for your time. It's greatly, greatly appreciated.