I am at a point where I manage to hide my stutter so much so that other people normally don't notice that I have it. That's good, to a large extent, but also bad because my life is still controlled by my stutter. There's a lot of things that I avoid in order to let my stutter remain hidden. Instead, I should stop trying to hide it, and learn how to stutter fluently. I can't find links at the moment - a bad Google day, I guess - so take my word for it, but it is a big part of befriending your stutter: let it all out. Make it as fluent as you can, but do not hide it. If you hide it, you are letting it control you. For me, letting it out, at all times, is one important step that I need to do in order to finally befriend it. I began stuttering at age 12, and I am 51 years old :) I went from the occasional stutter to being unable to speak in just two years, and spent the first ten years teaching myself to hide it. The years after that has been heavily affected by my efforts to hide my stutter, with a very high personal cost. Now, I am confident to perform the final step: from fluent speech to fluent stutter. I want to melt away that gigantic iceberg, so that only the tip of it is left :) ​ TLDR: Do not hide your stammer. Do not fight against it, but let it all out. Stutter freely, as fluently as you can. Since it will always be a part of you, own it instead of allowing it to take control of you. Live your life, openly, in confidence :)