Thoughts on this excerpt from the book “The Courage to be Disliked”

Thoughts on this excerpt from the book “The Courage to be Disliked” Hi all, I’m currently reading The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. It is a great book and I do recommend reading it. Throughout the book a young man goes to visit this philosopher and they have conversations about life and how to attack it. In one of the conversations they discuss stammers/stutters through the view of Adlerian psychology. I’m interested in the thoughts you all care to share about the conversation below: PHILOSOPHER: Some time ago, I participated in a workshop for people who stammer and their families. Do you know anyone who has a stammer? YOUTH: Yes, there was a student at the school I went to who stuttered. That must be hard to deal with, both for the person who has it and for his family, too. PHILOSOPHER: Why is stammering hard to deal wich? The view in Adlerian psychology is that people who suffer from stammering are concerned only about their own way of speaking, and they have feelings of inferiority and see their lives as unbearably hard. And they become too self-conscious as a result and start tripping over their words more and more. YOUTH: They are concerned only about their own way of speaking? PHILOSOPHER: That's right. There are not many people who willaugh for make fun of someone when he trips over his words now and then. To use the example I just mentioned, it would probably be no more than one person in ten, at most. In any case, with the sort of foolish person who would take such an attitude, it is best to simply sever the relation-ship. But if one is lacking in harmony of life, one will focus only on that person and end up thinking, Everyone is laughing at me. YOUTH: But that's just human nature! PHILOSOPHER: I have a reading group that meets on a regular basis, and one of the participants has a stammer. It comes out sometimes when it's his turn to read. But not a single person there is the sort who would laugh at him for that. Everyone just sits quietly and waits in a quite natural way for the next words to come out. I am sure this is not a phenomenon that is isolated to my reading group. When one's interpersonal relations do not go well, it cannot be blamed on a stammer or a fear of blushing or anything of the sort. Even though the problem is really that one has not attained self-acceptance or confidence in others, or contribution to others, for that matter, one is focusing on only one tiny part of things that simply should not matter and from that trying to form judgments with regard to the entire world. This is a misguided lifestyle that is lacking in harmony of life. YOUTH: Did you actually convey such a harsh idea to people who suffer from stammering? PHILOSOPHER: Of course. At first, there were some adverse reactions, but by the end of the three-day workshop, everyone was in deep agreement with it.