How to stop feeling shame for stuttering
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How to stop feeling shame for stuttering Hi guys, I’m a 21 year old female and I have a mild/moderate stutter. I have done ever since I was a child, and my parents never got me help for it. They had more going on in attending to my twin brothers needs who has autism. A traumatic home environment with violence from my brother when he hit puberty probably made it worse, idk. All I know is I’ve been stuttering since I was a kid. To this day me and my family have never spoken about it, even though I’ve stuttered terribly in front of them before and up until the present day. I’ve only spoke to two of my closest friends about it, none of my group of friends I met at uni, whom I live and spend my days with now. I guess it’s easier for me to come to terms with it as my stutter isn’t terrible and I can navigate getting around it without staying mute, but nevertheless it stifles what I want to say a lot and you know the rest. It’s hard. But I’ve had en epiphany; I’m going to speak about it to my family. I need to take the leap. For years I felt resentful towards my parents for never getting me help and I still think I carry this resentment. I need to lay it out on the table if I’m going to take the adulthood leap. I get defensive when others feel sorry for me. But I’m learning not to, it’s just one of those things. It is stigmatised in our society, it shouldn’t be; but it is. Anyway, I’m done with it making me feel ashamed. I’m over it. Anyone else feel like this? I read out loud sometimes and it does help; utilising practice methods like this have improved my speech generally. I just want to live the most authentic life I can! Anyone else in a similar situation?