postr/StutterMay 4, 2023

Nothing I do can make up for my stutter....

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Nothing I do can make up for my stutter.... I've had people say to me that my stuttering is a good filter to weed out shallow girls and that someone will fall in love with the "real me." As if they're going to fall in love with some mysterious hidden inner self or something. I try to "make up" for my stuttering by working hard at everything else, but at the end of the day I don't think it's enough to really counteract it. Seriously, who is really so incredibly worthwhile and interesting "underneath" that someone can look past all the awkwardness? There are plenty of other people, and even though I'm young I'm not so self absorbed or deluded as to think I'm really that special. If I made a huge amount of money or was extremely good looking mayyybe people would give me a chance and try to get to know me, but I am a pretty normal looking guy and will probably end up making a pretty average amount of money. As far as being interesting or intelligent or even having a good character (hard working/self disciplined etc.), most girls don't care. Most girls aren't interested in what I'm interested in anyway. They just want someone to be able to make basic conversation and not embarrass them in public. I don't think it's possible for a severe stutterer to be defined by anything but stuttering, as hard as I may try to be good at other things and worthwhile in other ways. No one can really get past that and nothing ultimately "makes up" for it. It's going to be really, really hard to find a girl who doesn't care. Stuttering is not just this small thing; it pretty much affects everything about my life. It's incredibly depressing.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentSadness & HopelessnessDating & Romance