You stop dwelling on it by venting and getting it out of your system and having people to extend compassion and comfort. Bottling it up inside, having your feelings dismissed by being told “others have it worse” “life isn’t fair” etc does not promote healing. It merely induces guilt. The only point of my reply was to you was to point out why it is indeed cruel to say things like that to a person in distress. Not to pick on you, I’ve just seen comments like that on this sub over and over again and I’ve never seen someone successful argue the point I’m trying to make, they usually just get shouted down.