postr/StutterJanuary 29, 2024

How do I deal with my stutter?? Help me please

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How do I deal with my stutter?? Help me please Hey guys 25F here, I've been dealing with what I believe to be a stutter since I was about 18 years old. I have no idea where it came from or what started it but it is slowly and secretly ruining my life. I tend to cover it up well by "forgetting" the word but in reality I know exactly what I want to say. It makes me look so stupid when it's words like 'nutella' or 'relationship' or sometimes even my own name which is by far the worst. Only a few people in my life know this about me because I am so ashamed. When I really try to pronounce the words with someone I'm comfortable with, I can feel myself in the pits of my stomach physically squeezing to try to make the word come out. None of my family but my partner know and I'm not sure where to go from here. I get married in 4 weeks time and I am DREADING my vows in case I can't say my partners name or something small and stupid and it makes me feel incredibly stupid and horrible about myself. I guess I am just looking to rant and express but also to ask if anyone has experienced the same thing and if they overcame it / managed it? I just want to go back to who I used to be where this was never an issue and I loved speaking in front of people. :(

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling Others

Codes (5)

ordering_service_encounterpublic_speakingsaying_name_introductionemotional_stateperceived_judgment