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Out of curiosity, what’s your native language? I think it’s probably more common with some languages than others, just because of sounds and how words are constructed. I barely stuttered when I was learning French, because so much of the language is based on “flowing” from one syllable to the next. Spanish was a lot harder for me, and I’m incapable of “rolling” my Rs. Japanese was somewhere in the middle. For me, I tend to block / stutter / clutter (no words coming out / repeating or prolonging words or sounds / jumbling words, respectively) when my brain is already way ahead of what my voice is capable of. I get by with a combination of word switching, breathing, and somatic movements. If I’m blocking, I can sometimes push through it by either slightly bouncing back and forth if the balls of my feet (more like just shifting my weight), or gesturing with my hands the same way to get back on the “beat” of my sentence. It also helps me to try to speak more softly, particularly with blocking (I have a loud voice). The method of speech therapy I went through went in stages, starting with whispering, then adding more vocal cords, to a more “breathy” voice, speaking in a monotone, and finally adding inflections. Sometimes you can add a very slight “H” sound in front of a word and it will help, but after dealing with this stutter for 30 years, I know what words I have trouble with, and how to work around them. Honestly though, the biggest thing that helped me with my stutter was giving up caring if I stuttered. You know that saying, “Don’t worry what others think about you, because they probably don’t”? We stutterers judge ourselves a hell of a lot more harshly than anyone else does. I present as mostly fluent (I’m somewhere between Bob Newhart and Joe Biden in level of stuttering), but a lot of it is because when I do stutter, I just roll with it and don’t sweat it too much. Sometime around my mid-20s I hit a point where my mentality switched from “my stutter is a flaw and people will judge me for it” to “my stutter is a characteristic, and if you judge me for it, that’s a ‘you’ problem.” I’m not trying to be glib about it. If you had told me even a couple years before that that I would get to a point where stuttering didn’t bother me, I would have said you were ffffffffucking crazy, but I was fortunate enough to meet a wonderfully sweet and understanding girl who showed me that people could notice my stutter without being bothered by it. That, combined with taking a job that involved my biggest fear — public speaking — really adjusted my perspective on it, and my stutter started to almost immediately improve. That’s a roundabout way of saying that there isn’t a silver bullet. You’ll find out what works for you, but don’t stress about it too much. Nothing makes me stutter quite like the anxiety of knowing I’m about to stutter.