You continue to create a 'think happy thoughts' response when I have not said that at all. I've said 'get busy and put some gruelling effort into your life to make it better.' I am quite an older person, a lot older than probably most of the people in this sub. There is more tragedy and adversity in my life than I care to admit. But you know what? I keep on going. I keep on learning and changing for the better. Some of us understand that it's hard work to overcome obstacles. The secret to a happy (or survivable) life is to keep growing and changing. Wallowing in self-pity accomplishes absolutely nothing.