commentr/StutterNovember 6, 2022

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I overheard a couple former coworkers making comments about how much they pity me for my stutter and one straight out told a coworker that she shouldn't do something with me outside of the office because I "couldn't even talk." Also have had people decide what I was comfortable with speaking wise and when I approached them to talk about it, they squirmed and made excuses. Take from these incidents what you will. This was the first job disclosed in the way described in my last post. May not be a correlation, but I would rather fellow people who stutter to avoid even thinking this by disclosing without saying sorry or that the stutter will get better with more "work." Ultimately this particular workplace exposed itself as being toxic for the events above and for a lot of other reasons, but it is an outlier compared to all my other work experiences where how I spoke wasn't an issue because it doesn't affect my work ethic or my ability to do the job. I'm the first person to admit that the fact that I am a person who stutters plays into a lot of my irrational anxieties, but sometimes people just suck. I don't know if the way I disclosed played into it, but I'm not making apologizes for the way I speak ever again.

Themes

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work

Subthemes

Stigma & BullyingShame & EmbarrassmentEmployment & Career