commentr/StutterMay 27, 2024

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Maybe my perspective can help? I’m the complete opposite as you I have literally no family or genetic link to stuttering. I’ve checked on both sides of my extremely extended family and quite literally no one had even heard of the concept of a speech impediment let alone experienced one. No one in my community or anyone around me ever experiences this issue as well. It was extremely lonely growing up because for some reason, I was afflicted with this bizarre anomaly, just purely terrible luck. no one around me understood some people thought I was doing it on purpose. Some people thought I wasn’t trying hard enough, some people thought that I was just dumb. Quite literally no one understood how to help me how to get me help and I was often vilified for having a stutter, even though I know, and my speech therapist at school understood that it was a neurological condition. My stutter is taking me to extremely dark places as well, and I’ve struggled with very deep depression and a very difficult life as a result of it. It took my family many years to understand how much they truly failed me and I am the one who has to live with the consequences of their failures. I often think about whether or not I want to have children because I worry about passing the stutter onto them. I know it’s unlikely but just understanding that there is a possibility or a chance often has given me a lot of anxiety. However, I think I now have the tools and the capabilities to be a great parent to a stuttering child. If God forbid that was ever about to happen. It took a lot of hard work being the first pancake. I had to learn how to control my speech how to manage it how to navigate through the world, but at least if my child has a stutter she or he will always have me to rely on, and I will have the ability to relate to them, to make them feel less lonely, And to guide them towards a better life. So maybe think about even though your dad gave you your stutter. At least you had somebody in your life to relate to and hopefully he’s been able to be a source of advice and guidance for you on this journey. I’m really sorry for what you’re going through because I very well understand how painful it can be. Good luck.

Themes

Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Genetic & Family FactorsTrauma & PsychologicalSadness & HopelessnessHelplessness & AgencyIdentity & Self-Perception

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emotional_stateperceived_judgmentpropositionality