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I'm 30 now & have an 8 year old son. Just like you, I always worried that he would stutter as well & it scared the hell out of me. I always thought that was the last thing I would want for him until I gained a different perspective. There are so many things that can go wrong with a baby/child, almost all of which are WAY scarier than stuttering. I'm talking about things like autism, SIDS, or any of the myriad birth defects/developmental disorders that children can be born with or afflicted with. THESE are terrifying. Stuttering is nothing in comparison imo. Lets say you did have a child that stuttered. He or she would be in the best possible position to grow up learning how to cope with it, since they would have the most amazing support network through you. Their life would be SO much easier simply because they have you around, someone that would truly understand what they're going through & be able to lean on for help. If you're anything like me, I had no support growing up as a kid & had to figure it all out on my own. I wish I had someone who had already been through it to help me out. I was lucky & realized early on (in my mid teens) that you can't run away from things because you stutter. If you do that, you'll repeat that cycle of fear, stress, & shame that most of us are all too familiar with until the day you die. I went from hardly being able to say 3 - 4 words consecutively without a major stutter/block, to now being a Military Training Instructor in the USAF (drill sergeant - dude with the big hat that yells at everyone during Basic Military Training). Like I said, I'm lucky that I figured out how to cope with it & enjoy my life, but I can't imagine how much easier it would have been had I had access to someone who had already done it before. With the right attitude (especially with support from friends & family), you seriously can do anything you want despite whatever hurdles are in the way. Don't run away from something you want to do because you're scared of what may happen. Living like this will only result in lifelong regret & shame because of what YOU CHOSE not to do. You choose how to live your life, not your stutter. Sorry this was a bit long winded, but I really feel like this is important & can't be overstated enough, especially so on this sub. edit - formatting was wonky