I made a lot of random videos over the years and these points are his summarizations and takeaways of them which is really neat and flattering. But since I'm still around, lol, do you have any question in particular? It was a long journey for me to get to where I am today and I am not 100% fluent or anything, just nothing like I was before (like it was very hard to talk over the phone before, it was the battle of my life to introduce myself but now it's not even a second thought). There was no quick and easy one hit wonder solution for myself, it was things I got used to and accepted and worked on over time. *"Don't do this" could range from:* \- not dwelling on the stutter, meaning replace it with something else, preferably meaningful but anything tends to be better than worrying over it at first. It's like asking a sports player not to worry about the audience. It just doesn't help in all practicality, the less we care the easier it tends to go and everyone's as comfortable as we are in the end. I accepted I had a stutter, accepted it comes and goes, and I didn't wanna shy away from anything "due" to my stutter because that would just lead to more fear over it leading to it being harder not to dwell on it. The goal was to feel like I'm at home. Dwelling over it always lead to a self fulfilling prophecy of "bad days" because I couldn't let go, in my mind, of any difficult stutter I may have had recently. So if I had to clarify something like this on how "not to do it" it would be to think of more meaningful things like working out, education, or even enjoyment like a movie or hanging out with friends and just being comfortable enjoying the moonlight. I used to just enjoy things around me on a drive, looking at the changing seasons and just rolled my eyes at the thought of dwelling on my stutter like I used to during ..every..damn.. drive I took. I knew it was as much of a waste of time as worrying about the audience would be to a sports player. It felt weird at first, like my mind felt heavy, burdened over trying not to dwell on something it thought was a cause for concern but I got used to it and it's not even an afterthought anymore. We can condition ourselves more than we realize. It just might be uncomfortable at first but for me it was an all or nothing journey because I was driving myself crazy thinking about it endlessly at a big junction in my life (early 20's when I was finishing school and working). Now it's such an obvious truth to me that I can freely think about my stutter out of curiosity without any fear of it. Thinking about it no longer brings up the stutter state, fear and tightness, or feeling susceptible to it. And I'm pretty sure I got to this point from years of not allowing myself to dwell on it, ironically. *or if you're wondering how not to do something like* \- Trying not to lean into it (as if to believe we have no choice but to always exert tension to get what we wanna say out). It felt like I used to tense through trying to say something rather than saying it, as if I needed to rely on that tension at all, which I came to accept shouldn't be how speech works. I think I was trying to tense through it hard in order to in a weird twist, untense and let go of the block, but over time I found that tended to be counter productive (but it felt like a necessity at first because it tensed up on it's own practically every time I tried, or what ever it was doing, it wouldn't let me go forward, or at least not without a big struggle). How I got used to unlearning that is something I'm not sure many are willing to put themselves through. At first I basically pulled back a word or 2 and did repetition on the word i was NOT blocking on. It was a choice I made because I was tired of losing all my energy to trying to force the word out where even if I got through, I was so tired going forward that a lot of times it felt like it wasn't worth it to continue on, especially if I had to go through that again. But repeating the word or 2 before the word I was actually blocking on had it's own psychological pressure even though it was so easy to do, I didn't actually know when I could continue on, I just knew when the block lets go I would have the energy to do so (I'd know when I could carry on, I didn't have to try to touch or push through the word. We tend to know when we can say something or, on the flip side, are about to block before we even say it). At first it took 5 to 10 tries or maybe more (it's something I started long long ago and got used to, my way of excepting my stutter while having control over my reaction to it without caring what others thought because I knew at the end of it they'd be as comfortable as I was and I'd be smiling without a second thought over it since, as I mentioned above, I conditioned myself to not dwell on it to begin with, basically accepting that there's no sense in worrying about what's beyond your control) but over time I got so used to and comfortable with it to the point where that initial letting go of the stutter by pulling back a word or 2 lets me continue on fairly instantly now. Not to say it doesn't come back as I continue on but that's where other ideas come into play also. I'm basically the sum of all my experiences, there was no easy quick fix for me, so I think he is summarizing bullet points that lead to a better understanding of my stutter and how it helped me carry on over time. What I was doing at first by deciding to repeat the word or 2 before the block was not me actually stuttering because in order to have actually stuttered I had to start repeating/pushing on the word I was blocking on but that's not what this was. In actuality I was just buying time by repeating the words that came before, words I could fully control since it was what was ahead that I couldn't get through. So I was choosing to stutter without actually stuttering, and it would just let go as oddly as it came about eventually, and leave me in bewilderment but I wanted to get used to it because I never knew it was even possible. Used to think all there was was fighting through it. Instead I was trying to get used to how the heck it just let up when moments ago it felt like it would never let up. I think I got lucky in experiencing this from deciding to save my energy because it's really counter intuitive. The motivation to do repetition on what came before the block and being open minded enough at the prospects of it letting up on it's own kinda came from the way I noticed I'd deal with a stutter at home, never needing to fight it, and wanting to bring that mindset into my everyday life and I was stubborn and committed enough to see it through at the time not even knowing if it was correct. Maybe I got lucky, but I'm grateful either way. And this is just a couple of things I did over my journey. There's more. So I wouldn't blame anyone if it's too much, too impractical for them, or too difficult to try in the moment when all eyes are on them and patience and a little bit of blind faith was needed. But to me that wasn't that different from the typical blocks I experienced anyway not knowing when it would let up because it always felt like it never would in the moment. So I was at a point in my life where experimenting didn't scare me anymore. But like I said, it was never an easy quick fix. I was taking in, getting used to, and learning from my own experiences while not letting myself fall into just worrying about what other people thought in the moment. Anyway, these 2 things, is just what I *started* with. lol I understand if it puts people off and isn't an easy "do this to unblock" explanation but that's the nature of the beast. I had no say in it. Only my reaction to it.