commentr/StutterDecember 12, 2016

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I definitely agree with a lot of what InfiniteLoopTA is saying. I think people are more willing to talk than we think. We project our own discomfort, and may make up stories that will keep us from having a conversation. With my boyfriend, I would get angry when I had a slip up. So one day I just came out and asked him if he ever noticed the way I would speak, he said he did notice a few times but didn't really pay any attention to it. So that just opened up the door for me to speak with him, and how much my voice impacted my life and the anxiety I have around my stutter. Now when I feel comfortable with someone (a new acquaintance, coworker, old friend) I try to blend it into the conversation. Just tell them I have a bit of a stutter, then make an attempt at a self-deprecation joke - I've found this to be pretty effective in making people feel more comfortable and open about talking with me about my stutter, like it's ok to be curious and I'm ok with it. Some people have been curious, others move right past it, some just stop talking to me and leave as quickly as possible (only kidding). I think generally people are curious and want to talk though.

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Coping & AdvocacySocial & RelationshipsEmotional ExperienceCommunity & Support

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Self-Advocacy & BoundariesDisclosure & Telling OthersAnxiety & Social JudgmentValidation & Empathy

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perceived_judgment