Here's the first step: Understand what causes anxiety and learn as much as you can about social anxiety. Why? Understanding something makes it familiar to your brain, and makes it less scary. If you're going through a anxiety inducing event, instead of wondering what the heck is happening to you, you'll know exactly what's going on at a neurological level. This is empowering, this is the first step towards making 'real' change (not just tricks and gimmicks). Here are 2 books I highly recoemmend. There are plenty of other books that experts recommend that you can read as well. This [book](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1626251134/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) talks about the mechanism inside your nervous system that plays part in anxiety, and really gives great explanation on what is really going on This [book](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1250161703/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1) talks about the behavioral aspect of social anxiety, and has tons of examples and strategies you can implement in your life towards overcoming it Note that social anxiety for people that stutter is little bit different. Our social anxiety is triggered by our stutter and our inability to express ourselves freely in social situation. There are specific strategies that we can pursue to overcome it. However, that is the second step. After you read the book(s), you can reach out to me and we can discuss the next steps.