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I don’t stutter, but My long term partner does. I came on this thread to ask if anyone could give me some insight on what I can do to ease his self consciousness about his stutter. After checking out some of the posts on this thread, I just want to say my heart goes out to you guys. I know it might not be much help, but I don’t think anything negative about those who stutter and I know a lot of other people feel the same. There are some jerks who maybe will judge those who stutter… but they’re usually the ones who have nothing going for them/ super ignorant and don’t seem very bright. If you didn’t stutter, those same people who might make you feel bad would just choose something else to pick at no matter if you are the most “perfect” person or not. I remember being told when I was little that you will ALWAYS be judged by at least SOMEONE, no matter what you do, so you might as well be yourself and own it. I love the confidence in those who stutter. I see you trying. You should surround yourself with people who embrace your stutter. I know it is hard meeting new people, ordering at restaurants, trying to find jobs, find partners, etc. But those who are worth it will stay in your life and I hope you find those people and they stay by your side to help you feel more comfortable about your stutter when you go about your day. I love meeting others who stutter because you guys are admirable. You try. And having a partner who took like 2 minutes to get 2 sentences out, it is just something I hold close to my heart. I have seen first-hand how is and although I will never truly understand how it feels, I feel so proud for you guys and am rooting for you. I am sorry so many of you have such anxiety about it. My partner does as well and it makes me sad to know he believes it stops so many opportunities for him. When I first met him at 16 I didn’t mind. For some reason I actually liked him more. It’s hard to explain, but it just made my heart jitter all the more for him. It still does. The thing is I don’t even notice it now. I truly forget all the time that he has a stutter. Well, 7 years later we are engaged and have a baby. He is working hard to find a better job for our new family and he is increasing in self consciousness about his stutter when it comes to job interviews. My question is: What can I do to support him about this? Is there anything in your guys’ experience that helped? Something your partners have done to really help your confidence or help you not worry too much about the stutter? TYIA…