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I would agree with all your answers. 1) Sometimes slowing down and pausing does help me, but sometimes the other person(s) you may be talking to will simply help you finish out your sentence. That may be a relief to some while others may seem like they failed to get their point across. 2)"Fake confidence" haha I know exactly what you mean. Pretending and rambling about a topic that another person might not be familiar with can sometimes boost my confidence and use words that I normally stuttered. 3)Having a large vocabulary or replacement of words is also very routine for me. From what i read, this is normally a bad habit but saves me from the occasional embarrassment that I place upon myself. 4) Situations where you are forced to speak. a) Workplace - i used to work in an office so picking up the phone was very frustrating at times. I would say "This is [My Name]..." rather than "Hello" because to this day, I just can't figure out why i sometimes stop at "He.." . I guess that's called a block right? However, with communicating information, I normally have things printed out so that I can look back and forth at the document while talking to someone. Other times, I pretend to be very tired and slowly (and pause) talk to people about certain situations. b) Restaurant / Take Out - Thanks to the internet, online ordering is so much easier these days. However, when I do go out to places to eat and I know I'm having a bad day, I'll look at the menu and order what I am confident I can order. I have issues with 3 syllable words or those that begin with "S" - even though I love "strawberry", "carne asada" tacos and other things. 3) Dates - Never had a stable GF but I still try to go on dates when the opportunity comes. Normally, I would like to plan out where I am going (Duh! its a date lol) but it should be a place that I am familiar with - the environment, restaurant, streets. That way it helps me comfortable. Rather being lost or confused which sometimes increases my anxiety. Sooner or later tho, the person will know that I stutter. If not the first date, then maybe the third date and when that happens I find myself being in the friend zone or maybe we both realize it just wont work out. 4) Being Angry - sounds a little weird but there are times that being in this state allows me to hone my energy at arguing with a person. For example, there was a time when I had a returned a rental car and this person tried to charge me extra for some misc. fee not stated in the original agreement. I would use that so called "Fake confidence" and focus on what I need to get accomplished at that moment. 5) Meeting new people - This is always hard for me but I try to ask questions to be in the driver's seat and be more in control of the conversation. Responding takes too much work for me. If I'm at a party, an alcoholic beverage might help or it might make it worse. With this speech impediment, I am not very sociable but I do enjoy parties and drinking so I tend to go out when my friends drag me out. Lately tho, not as much because I feel like everyone that I know has been coupled up except for me.