That we aren’t trying hard enough; it’s jelly the opposite we are trying too hard. People say we are nervous and we should relax, but everyone gets nervous, it’s not like it is something unique to us and this stupid disorder. So and so stopped stuttering, that’s great; but stuttering is highly personalized. What works for them might not work for me? They might have had milder cases of it than I do , you shouldn’t lump us all into the same category.