Having trouble to "accept" stutter

Having trouble to "accept" stutter I see people say just accept your stutter, don't let it control your life. Ok... I get that. But then I see youtube videos of people who "accept" their stutter and then sometimes its like they are talking worse than I do lol. So it's just like I have the option to be covert stutter and talk fluently sometimes and be quiet most of the time so I don't get embarrassed. Or "accept" my stutter and sound like a moron everytime i open my mouth...