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This is a super interesting question that I think has many facets. As humans we are very complex. We have so many areas to develop that end up defining us. A lot of people are defined by their careers or their hobbies or even thrive friend groups.As evidenced by your own comment and that of others. But these are things that you do... not things that you are. I think that just because you have some limitations, doesn’t define who you are. It may determine what you you can do, and even then, muggy brogues played for the NBA... but not who you are. I do think however that human development and logical and critical thought is very dependent on 2-way communication. The way we individuate and learn who we are is best discovered through conversation and experience. Al, things being equal, PWS tend to do this less than fluent speakers and it often shows. I have found young PWS (including myself)to be: 1. highly judgemental eg calling people trash because they don’t understand stuttering, or calling women and men who reject them “bad people.” 2. Highly sensitive and self conscious. Every reaction or rejection is “because I stutter”. Never because because maybe “I said something idiotic” or “ I’m not interesting to this particular person” or maybe “I wasn’t a good fit”. 3. Feeling of terminal uniqueness- “no one understands and my life is the worst. “ There is zero perspective of how much worse a disability can be. Often PWS or have other mild disabilities use this as an excuse to just lay down and give up and /or be needy ass people. I find it repulsive. 4. Highly susceptible to mental illness especially depression, and anxiety which can truly redefine who you are. In fact while a stutter won’t kill you, depression most assuredly will if left untreated. 5. Absolutist thinking or splitting- I think this is the most detrimental trait and leads to very poor logic. And because we aren’t talking to people to tease out our logical fallacies, we just become more and more entrenched in them. Eventually someone points out how absurd our thinking is and we go to 2. “It’s because I stutter.” But there are a few positives as well. Unfortunately these are often thought of as virtuous even though this is just basically how humans should behave in general. 1. Patience. 2. Good writing skills 3. Good listening skills I have been all these things at some point and I have seen fluent people be all these things at some point. Maybe it’s growing pains but I feel like it’s a bit more pronounced in PWS and so the correlation makes me think it may be a causation. I could be wrong.