postr/StutterJanuary 15, 2024

We have been fighting the wrong battle.

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We have been fighting the wrong battle. Ever wondered why you are fluent when speaking to yourself in a room but stutter when speaking to a real person? Its bcs you can speak but cant communicate. This is complicated but basically our disability is not speaking, its communication. I want to organize virtual meetings to practice communication. I said communication, not speaking. Our goal is not to reduce the stutter, its to have the ability to communicate despite the stutter. That will greatly reduce or even end the stutter (but thats not our main goal as i will explain in the next paragraph ) Our enemy is not just the stutter. Stuttering has made us fear speaking, the fear of speaking has made us shrink ourselves to avoid judgement. Some of us have never even done public speaking as in speaking to a grp of more than 60. That has made us have zombie level communication skills. There is little you can do about stuttering but there is SO MUCH you can do about communication skills. Id rather stutter with than without communication skills. Many people rant on this sub how they screwed up interviews or presentations and stuff due to the stutter but its not all about the stutter, its the inability to communicate. Dont get me wrong, i understand that stuttering is a setback by itself. Learning to communicate despite the stutter will eliminate 50% of the problems caused by stuttering. It might not reduce or end the stutter but it will make it insignificant if you can communicate. Another important thing is logicaly if youre able to communicate freely you will get over the anxiety and your stutter might end.. thats basically how those who get rid of their stutter do it. We are therefore shooting a bullet that will depending on the person either hit the stutter, communication or both. Here is what we will be doing: Reading out loud || Describing images or art in full detail || Monologuing any subject (monologuing is one person speaking) || Conversations between two people on a certain topic.. and more. The meetings will either be on zoom or Google meet. Arrangements are on a Whatsapp group. I have created the WhatsApp group and we will start as soon as we are a handful amount of people. Here is the link https://chat.whatsapp.com/FfyFUVhyvMJGWbnva9b2wi

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Social & RelationshipsCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceCauses & Variability

Subthemes

Quality of LifeFluency TechniquesHope & MotivationPropositionality & WeightAnxiety & Social Judgment