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Anyone else been in the same boat? Hi I'm 27 m.. I been stuttering since I can remember about 7-8yrs old.. When I was younger I had the traditional repetition stutter I hated it I now get stuck blocks or prolong words and the "um" or "uh" gets used alot.. I'm so ashamed of my stutter I don't like letting people know that I stutter unless the odd one here and there figures it out or I'm really close to the person.. Because I force myself to not do the repetition I get stuck on the word and prolong some words my stutter goes unnoticed and most people just look at me weird like "why's he even talking like that wtf" or they just lose interest in the convo. When I do tell people I stutter they say I'm lying or looking for attention coz I don't do the (i-i-i or r-r-r).. Before it used to be only words that began with certain letters but as the years had gone by my stutter has gotten worse and the self hate and depression and anxiety has grown.. There's nothing worse than not being able to say your name or age or address when meeting new people, you always get that weird look like "did you just forget your name" "did you forget where you live" "did you forget the name of your high school".. I've had suicidal thoughts before but never taken it serious as I always thought I was weird for thinking them or having them because of a stutter is stupid.. The thought of getting married or having kids even scares the shit out of me because how do you even speak in front of church of people and I get stuck on people's names too so how can you be a father and not know your child's name.. Obviously there are people that stutter and live normal lives and I can't help but hate myself a little more on the inside for not being one of them that can just be fine with it and accept their stutter.. I keep thinking if they can do it why can't I? Is there something wrong with me.. I recently gone through a breakup we basically broke up coz she wanted to start a family and get married. I've always said I don't want kids and that marriage is a waste coz of so much divorce but the truth is that I've always had a fear of getting married coz it involves speaking in front of huge group of people and I wouldn't want to pass on my stutter to my offspring as I read it is genetic.. As well having a kid just involves having to have more social interactions and my social anxiety has gotten worse over the years I tend to avoid social interactions as much as possible.. I hate how not being able to accept your stutter can control your life so much.. You miss out so much.. I can't help but think what if I didn't stutter my life would be so much better I could be with the woman I love and have a family with her instead of having this negative mindset of I'm not good enough because of a stutter.