I'm 29, started stuttering since I was 6 or 7, and have ever since. Different techniques work for different people, but for me, I just view my stutter as 'it is what it is,' and try my best not to let it effect my life. A large thing about being anxious, like you said, is the fear of judgement. In reality though, most people couldn't care less about you, me, or anyone. They may be shocked at your stutter, but once the convo is done and you part ways, that's it. People tend to think the quiet ones are weirdos. As an introvert (as I'm sure most stutterers are) it's hard for us not to be quiet. Try to engage a little. I can almost guarantee you that your coworkers will think of you in a brighter light if they know you're a stutterer and not a quiet serial killer. This actually reminds me of a time in my senior year. I was QUIET, except for talking with my few friends. Toward the end of the school year, I began talking / stuttering more. I was told by several people, girls and guys, that they wish I had spoken to them sooner, and they thought I was the quiet kid killer. As for your brother in law, I'm sure he knows. If your sister knows, he knows. The fact he's talking with you on the phone may show he doesn't mind your stutter. It's probably awkward because neither of you have brought it up yet. As for dating, try online for you can disclose your stutter by text. This allows you and the other person to get to know each other a nice amount, without them being shocked by your stutter. Being shocked is normal when someone isn't expecting it, and it can be awkward for a while after. If you don't enjoy work, get a new job. Only move up though, never down. You're single, so use your money to take yourself out. Do stuff you enjoy doing. Most outdoor activities require zero social skills and can be done alone. Same with art, video games, working out, the list goes on. Making yourself happy is the first step on this road.