Sorry, I missed this! If it’s helpful, I think it is helpful to allow yourself to be bothered, but for the right reason. It’s natural to be frustrated - embrace it! However, I would let the frustration not be over how you appear to others. Over time I have found no one really cares if I stutter. However, I can get frustrated when I stutter because it is draining to try to have a conversation when you get blocked! Just like if you were jogging, and suddenly you developed a limp after hurting your foot, and had to work harder to compensate for the limp while jogging. No shame in the limp - shit happens - but it is a natural human reaction to feel frustration when you have to work harder to compensate! So I find it helpful basically to allow frustration, but not shame.