If I understood correctly, when people ask you for something you are more fluent and relaxed because it seems that they are asking for your time. When happens the other way around you get block, stuck and anxious. Well my tip is this: Stop worrying about the other people needs. Stop seeking other people aproval. Make it all about you and your emotions. You said it yourself multiple times on your text: **"Stuttering upsets me more than it probably upstets other people"** You see you are thinking about the other and how we may react or what he might think. **"I fell like half the time I´m bothering people anyway"** Again. There is always a focus on the other and not on the self. You also said that when the other person ask you something it become more easy to deal with the situation. If you think about that, you already won the other person aproval because he started the conversation or he need´s your skills or whatever. So the fear decreases. I know is easier said than done so here is my second tip. Instead of trying so stop something, just notice when you are giving much of your attention to the other person. The notice itself will take off some of your tendency to indulge the other person needs. Take care, Hope you continuous success.