commentr/StutterOctober 20, 2020

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I don’t often post on this subreddit but I do now because I know this situation, and i want to share my process with you I have a similar story, my stutter was sometimes severe, sometimes not present at all. After months or even years of fluent speech, I too started wondering: 'Am I still a person who stutters?' however i experienced that this questioning works counterproductive. As long as you want to get rid of your stutter and the 'label', you still see your stutter as something negative. My stutter eventually came back, and I was devastated. 'I didn’t actually stutter anymore right?' was what I was thinking. After that moment, the way I look at my (potential) stutter is that it’s a part of me. I have a long history with stuttering that definitely has influenced my life. I'm sure that my whole future life, i will never forget what stuttering is, and I’m aware that it will be my Achilles heel for the rest of my life. Therefore I choose to identify myself as a person who stutters, even when I’m fluent. it gives me peace of mind. When I have realised that stuttering will always remain in my life, I realised that stuttering is not something you should try to ignore, instead, how difficult it seems (and is), try to embrace it. Although it is not easy to achieve, i have a few thought that I want to share and help me in maintaining a positive attitude towards my speech \- You have an Achilles heel, which is your speech. Unfortunately your Achilles heel is slightly more visible, but in society, almost everybody has an Achilles heel. Be happy that its not something physical! \- the pursue of speaking fluently is unrealistic, infeasible and especially unnecessary. listen closely to 'fluent' peoples their speech and observe how clumsy their speech is. its a total eye opener. your goal shouldn’t be to become the best news anchor or journalist. Instead you just have to become comfortable with your speech. \- I believe that stuttering brings positive characteristics with it. Many people misunderstand the importance of listening, something i do a lot and is something i consider as a side effect of stuttering. Listening instead of speaking most in a conversation is very valuable and people will appreciate it. Stuttering is a psychological warfare. I have found peace in mind by accepting that i am a person who stutters, and i actually expet it to be coming back in the future. Can’t say im looking forward to it, but im confident that ill manage it and that it’s just temporary. This is where I’m now, and I’m very confident and positive about my, at this moment, fully fluent speech. Maybe my thoughts can inspire you, or you could disagree with me. My key mindset comprehends: I will always be a stutterer, and im fine with that :)

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Identity & Disability

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Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideAuthenticity vs. Masking