commentr/StutterAugust 19, 2020

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You shouldn't feel the need to give up, I'm a (26m) and I've been stuttering all my life and finally I'm at the point of my life where I'm just starting to accept it. We have a voice, and everyone deserves to have their voice heard no matter how "broken" it comes across. Sure we all have days where we just wanted to tape our mouths shut and never want to talk to anyone because we feel ashamed of it but we have to push through because somewhere out there...someone is waiting to hear your voice. If you can, seek a good therapy group that can provide you with good reinforcement and positivity, especially if its a group setting. I've come a long way from where I was before therapy up until now and I've changed for the better I think. Somedays my speech is 💩 and other days its easier to talk, which I'm sure some of us stutterers experience at some point during our lives. I used to be that shy quiet stutterer and would be reserved but lately I've been really combative when it comes to standing up for myself and my stutter and my view points etc. "Can't say my own name." I feel your pain there. I do cuz thats something I struggle with even until this day. I still don't feel comfortable saying my own name at 26 and sometimes ppl say, "You forget your name?" To that I counter I say, "No, I'm a person who stutters." Then they apologize and are understanding of it...most of the time. If people give you a hard time and laugh at you about, screw them and move on, not worth appeasing to them. Nothing funny about struggling to speak where somedays it feels like someone is slowly applying pressure to your throat with their boot. Most stutterers have trouble saying their own name, mostly because of the psychological "mental load" it comes with from all those years we've dealt with it. There will come a time in our life that we'll be "comfortable" with our voice. It may not be at 26, 19, 35, or even 50, but we'll get there someday. If you need someone to talk to, don't be afraid to reach out to me, I'm new to this reddit thread and seeing all these posts really makes me grateful im not the only stutterer in the world and have others who share the same struggles. Remember, love who you are, and never give up. Good luck to you.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCommunity & SupportCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Avoidance & SubstitutionAdvice OfferedValidation & EmpathySelf-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception