All I've said is that in order to be happier in life, people need to take action. Sitting around waiting for the world to change around you is not going to happen. Complaining about how unfair life is will not make you happier. In fact, negative attitudes of 'poor me' are just another form of self-bullying. Sorry, but I stand up to bullies and call them out, including people bullying themselves with self-destructive thinking.