I stutter! and that's my Lingo! A refreshing approach to living with a stutter

I stutter! and that's my Lingo! A refreshing approach to living with a stutter Lets start this with a Question? -what if as a stutterer i was never meant to achieve fluency? -what if stutter is the natural way of me to speak, like it is my accent because the mental agony that most people feel isn't due to the fact that they stutter but due to the fact that stuttering is assosicated with feelings of negativity. The bone crushing, gut wrenching negative feeling and anxiety that follows when you stutter, oh how you so feel like life would be better if you were to get that one word out. but what if that belief is wrong what if, the reason behind the agony is two fold 1. you are trying to compare yourself with a fluent(a person who can structure their words in unison) person, but you can never be that. You can never bridge that gap. Its like saying a hen would try and sound like a owl and it gets depressed everytime it tries producing a sound and fails to sound like a owl, it just cannot because its just not designed to. So law and behold "comparision" is a recipe for disaster. you've always read the age old recipe for Acceptance stuttering, but what if the meaning of it lies in that you need to drill this thing deep down in your psyche that fluent. Or should i say, your brain cant structure and pronounce words in unision. So why fight it? just embrace the speech faculties that you are given with. Treat it as your way of speaking and march ahead. Say if you want to say a sentence, you said it & you stuttererd (well fuck me) thats just the way i am, ill try it again, whats with all the negative thought-butchery. I just done care if i stutter if i am unable to say a sentence, its FINE. 2. Programming that stuttering is bad or frowned upon. (Societal conditioning) "Human beings" smirk an eye over whatever is unusual and out of the ordinary stuttering is seen as a weakness, or something that people consider to akin to making fun of. Call it the tv shows or the media or your relatives/friends for that matter. the fact that stuttering is looked down upon or made fun of is all but a part of the "conditioning" that society has shoved down our heads over the years. if the conditioning were in such a way that "stutters" were considered to be gods amongst humans then even that would be the case (in some parallel universe ofcourse), then we'd be worshipped lol Think about it, where did you get the idea that stuttering is frowned upon and its bad to do in public? was it personal experiences or what is the media? if you are like me its most likely its the media. The media prays at peoples shortcomings and drags it along through their videocasts; exactly what they are paid for. They dont capture whether how stuttering "registers" in other peoples mind. And with that being said.. In real life, people just dont care. They are only concerned about their lives. think about it,: its a workplace setting: if you are a person(who stutters) and you see a guy come up to you with some sort of other disability for some work related shenanigans , how long would you remember that person for his disability? well for apart for the duration of the interaction; -Its likely you'll forget about it. you are a shellfish prick absorbed in your own life. -your feelings towards that person wouldn't change. you WONT judge him for his disability. And thats the key. People just done give a flying fuck, yes there might be instances where they would make fun but: a. its temporary and they'll forget about as quickly as they have spoken about it | b. they are insecure about their own lives for for projecting insecurity onto others (they are shallow people and they would take try and probe out others insecurities as a means to gratify themselves. Nothing personal for you, its just the way they are. Pity them) So its just conditioning about people who stutter to the masses; and the conditioning is flawed. So you are considering your stutter to be bad, based on a flawed narrative about stuttering that has been propagated over the years. In Summary, Own your stutter. Yes, i am not fluent. I accept it. Yes, i speak in a way that is choppy and non coherent. Thats how my anatomy is. I'll still deliver my message. No, i wont compare myself to fluent people, because their brains are designed differently. When i accept my stutter and speak, I know i will stutter i know i might not be able to speak some sentences, forget conversation context midway Its fine, because i am built this way. I wont get any feelings involved and ill try again without feeling like a looser to myself Embarrassment when i stutter? well thats flawed societal conditioning & well people just dont care to be honest. The good thing is everyone is so self absorbed among themselves, they just dont mind. Stuttering is my accent and i am proud to have it and flaunt it and i wont shy away from speaking experiences just because i stutter, because i simply dont care about how my accent is perceived with people. Because people DONT care and SO SHOULD YOU!