postr/StutterNovember 2, 2020

I am overthinking my stutter, AGAIN

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I am overthinking my stutter, AGAIN Hello! I am 21 years old and I stutter. I have stuttered for a long long time. When growing up I always thought it would go away or at least it would get much better. I always thought it was gonna be okay. BUT NO. I am 21 and stuttering is my worst and biggest inequity. "OMG, if he/she is gonna ask my name and I ll stutter they will think I am stupid. this thoughts are driving me crazy". the hardest thing is this is that I am not introvert, I am extrovert , communication and talking is what I love, but what I can not do properly. I am studying PR so what I have to do is talk, talk,talk. And I want to do it , because I found myself enjoying presentations when I starter less. I can't say because of stuttering I don't have good social life or job. BUT I have the feeling I can not express who I am because I have change the words I stutter on with the ones I don't stutter on. one time I stuttered and the guy asked "is something wrong with you" and I was done there. I got so angry. when I like someone I always think they won't like me because of my stutter, I always think I will be always behind other people because my flaw is sooooo visible. there are days when I think its ok but there are days when I don't wanna get out of the bed because I don't want to stutter. THIS ONLINE life made it so much worse, I have upcoming presentations and I am already dying. sometimes I wonder, why this happened to me? life is already so hard and I am thinking about "ooh, what if I stutter on my name"? I am getting tired and in my country I only two people who stutter, and omg they don't care , they are famous musicians and don't even avoid talking publicly, they literally don't give a fuck. I wanna share with you this diesel ad [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYxG1ASrYKo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYxG1ASrYKo) and maybe we will come to conclusion that FLAWS ARE UNIQUE. I wanna wish you happy happy days where you don't care about stuttering!

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringAnxiety & Social JudgmentAuthenticity vs. Masking

Codes (2)

telephone_videopropositionality