This is really important. It's so easy to focus on what we can't do - in our case speaking fluently - instead of the amazing things we can contribute in spite of - or even because of - our struggles. I used to drive myself to despair with all the things that my stammer would stop me from doing - relationships, kids, career. I worried that I'd never achieve anything unless I fixed my speech first. But that changed when someone said to me: "Ultimately, who gives a shit if you stammer?" The more I turned that over in my head, the more it made sense. I always cared that I stammered - I still do - but anyone worth talking to doesn't care in the slightest if a conversation takes a bit longer than I'd like. I try really hard to keep that at the front of my mind these days.