**TL;DR short summary:** The tips are for *people who stutter*, especially for those whose stuttering was preceded by trauma and whose social anxiety came after stuttering began. Unprocessed memories are the basis of pathology, preventing the brain from adaptively updating our neuropathways developed through distressing past adverse experiences. Accelerated learning cannot take place if a person is not in their ‘window of tolerance.’ Our brain's adaptive response to stress leads to action and trauma can overwhelm this healthy adaptive response. Traumatized people often get stuck in powerlessness and dissociation (causing fragmentation of experiences). We try to shut off this awareness to survive terrifying and overwhelming emotions. This is why mindfulness–knowing what you feel and understanding why–is so helpful in strengthening the neural processes. For abused children, the whole world is filled with triggers. *So*: To resolve the traumatic stress we need to restore the proper balance between the rational and emotional part of the brain.